Church dating

[Nongki Derick Njiah]

Yes, to me it’s even good when dating a brother/sister from the same church; because it makes the availability of the both parties easy(no complications). It will be a good one equally as you’re dating someone you best know about his/her spiritual life, background and life style and a lot more to add.

[Pamela Boateng]

You have some interesting points there. Thank you

[Robert wilson]

Yeah..it sets both parties on track without leaving any awkward life and they are advised and trained on how to live a holy life

[Olasunkanmi Kolawole]

Q. What are the potential benefits of dating someone at church?

A. The advantages to dating within your local church are numerous, but here are what I would consider the top three.

You get to see someone’s character on display before you begin to date them. Character is the basis for trust. Character is a foundational pillar of your relationship. God calls us to tie intimacy to character. When you date without knowing character, you’re taking a huge risk. Being in a local church together gives you a chance to see who has demonstrated character and pursue them.

You can also identify spiritual chemistry. You aren’t just a physical and intellectual being. You are spiritual. God calls us to tie intimacy to spiritual chemistry. He calls us to pursue people who are pursuing Him like we are. It’s very difficult to see that outside of a local church context. Within the church you can see how they pursue God and how they value Him.

Finally, you can see who actually helps you accomplish the mission. This isn’t your life to do with what you please. You’ve been given a mission. The person you spend your life with should be the one who best helps you accomplish that mission. How can you see that outside of the local church and being on mission together?

Q. What are the risks or dangers of trying to find love at your church?

A. I don’t think dating at church is inherently risky. It only becomes risky if you choose not to follow God when you date within the church. Here are two of the concerns I hear from people considering dating and what I tell them:

If we break up we can’t attend the same church: I’ve only seen that happen when a couple doesn’t listen to God about tying their intimacy to a marriage commitment. If you sleep together and break up, that will be true. If you follow God’s instruction and you don’t, you’ll be fine. Every time I’ve experienced a breakup where the couple couldn’t attend the same church, it was because they stole something from one another that wasn’t rightfully theirs.

I don’t want people to know about my dating life: Secrets are almost never safe. Accountability is good for relationships, not harmful. You also don’t have to broadcast it on social media. I often know who is dating well before anyone else because they will secretly hold hands while sitting together on Sunday thinking I can’t see them. It happens more than you think. I’m always cautious of someone who wants to hide their dating life from their “friends.”

[Adebayo Oluwatoyin]

Thanks for the explanation

[Impact Space]

Very in-depth response. I say why not?

[Akampurira Susan]

Yeah and it would be even better because you already know the religion beliefs of the person you are dealing with.

[JUSTUS NJUKI]

Only men know how difficult it is to start off.You have a well composed content but to let it out….My God.Sometimes, you face her head-on and everybody else is metres away en you say to yourself;”today I must let it be known to you”,Only to find yourself telling her other irrelevant stories.In other words, whether church dating or hike dating..dating remains to be dating.The message remain the same.To be in the confines of the Church doesn’t mean you will have an easier path.You will have to confess to each other, Plan for a cup of tea,take her for a day out,and indeed speak it out as to how you know each other NOT how the church know you.Perhaps the church is there as your common ground.In our church for example, only one in ten young people eventually date their fellow youth.So,whether its church dating or…..what’s important is,do the two of you have something in common that can navigate to marriage and of course,church dating is better.
-look like a good debate now-

[James Amama]

You really can’t be dating a church member my sister unless you’re in courtship and you mustn’t go visit the person alone

[Nnanke Ofem]

Yes and Yes! At least the issue of denomination after marriage won’t be a problem, and again the parties involved must have been conversant with the level of spirituality the other partner possesses.

[TOPE OLAJIDE]

HmmmmThat’s a big question It’s good thou, but it’s not encouraged here in my country.I don’t knw they find it uneasy for workers in the same church to date themselves as long as they are workers in the vessels which to me it’s very wrong, hence it’s make youths lose interest in Church relationships